I related to Rachel’s battle to balance her American sensibilities with traditional Asian values.
"Pursuing one’s passion … how American."
As a first-generation Taiwanese American, it is the line in Crazy Rich Asians that stuck out the most for me personally. I remember back again to my mother’s answer when I said I needed to get a skill degree when I graduated from senior high school: "No."
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I was likely to take action more practical, more useful and presumably better for my future and my children.
There appeared to continually be a constant battle growing up between being the "good daughter" and attempting to allow real me out. At school, I was taught to believe for myself, be independent and also have an opinion. While in the home, I was considered unmindful of the "best path" and advice that was organized, and it had been rarely about passion. It had been about monetary success and climbing the organization ladder.
I actually did try that advice and visited an excellent college, got an excellent corporate job and became assistant vice president at a bank at age 26. But, even while, I wasn’t happy. It felt like something was missing. There is no fulfillment. I needed more excitement in my own life. I needed life to have meaning. I needed passion.
When I saw Crazy Rich Asians , I was excited to see Rachel play out the East-meets-West narrative. The movie teaches us much about pursuing our passions:
When Rachel is confronted near the top of the stairs by Eleanor saying, "You won’t ever be enough," it appears that that is a turning point for Rachel who has, until this time around, tried to win Eleanor over. That is when she evaluates if the original views of her worthiness connect with her and realizes she reaches define her own value.
Frequently we make an effort to be something for other folks. Maybe it’s to create them happy. Maybe it is because we’re trying to surpass their expectations or familial obligations. Maybe it is because we mistakenly think they learn about who we are than we do. But, the real source of confidence originates from knowing what’s true for you personally. Who are you nowadays? Who do you wish to be? Sometimes a face-off is strictly what you must assist you to decide.
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Despite the fact that Eleanor proudly shares, "For me personally, it had been a privilege, but also for you, it may seem it’s old-fashioned. But, all of this doesn’t just happen. It is because we know to place family first," it’s pretty obvious that she wishes she had finished college.
She wants visitors to know she is a smart woman, having pursued a degree in law. She wants Rachel to start to see the sacrifice she made, doing that which was expected of a dutiful wife and quitting her passion so as to raise her son. Personally, i think she could’ve had both.
A lot of us have been given some kind of formula like get good grades, visit a good college, get yourself a corporate job, get married, buy a residence, have a family group and voila! — fulfillment and happiness. For me personally, as a creative, trying to squeeze in this box didn’t work. Had I continued, I’d likely have already been dreadfully miserable, but making a choice to pursue a passion that fills my soul has helped create a life I really like.
Another couple in the story, Astrid and Michael, highlighted an essential point. Though Astrid was lavishly rich and successful, she was down-to-earth. She was Nick’s favorite cousin and the main one who comforted Rachel whenever a bloody fish was left on her behalf hotel bed. She actually is amazing just as she actually is and showed her true self in situations where she felt comfortable to take action.
But, I was sad on her behalf when Michael’s affair was revealed since it was clear she looked after him deeply — so deeply that she didn’t want him to feel inferior, thus hiding her passion for superb.
When she realizes that she’d done to lift up Michael and squelch who she was had resulted in his affair, she sees that dimming her light didn’t brighten Michael’s. She’d hidden herself away all that point, feeling ashamed rather than living fully.
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I needed to operate and applaud when she placed on her new pearl earrings and boldly walked away, telling Michael that she’d spent their very existence together trying never to make him feel bad. Just how she walked off showed she was prepared to shine as herself without apology.
We are able to never control just how much someone else shines & most definitely we will fail by trying to be less to allow them to be more. Consider of two candles. If one is a tall taper candle and another is a brief, wide jar candle, both have their own flames. Both are beautiful within their own right. Blowing one out won’t make the other brighter. It is the same with people. Blowing out our flame only leads to a life unlived. Loving yourself and all that you will be, shining brightly will help you to live your most passionate life.
Making dumplings was a family group affair at the house, much like in the movie, except we didn’t have a lavish kitchen and table. My mother piled-up flour, indented the very best, cracked an egg in the centre and kneaded the dough yourself. We rolled out the dough in a hand-crank pasta roller mounted on the medial side of the table and cut circles out with a tea tin lid. My mother filled those scrumptious dumplings with pork and shrimp, and I’ve never really had anything that can compare with them.
Despite the fact that she was an American, Rachel was in the home making dumplings from scratch. Her family traditions weren’t lost as she also pursued her passion of economics.
It’s Never Too Late to Pursue Your Passion
I suppose many didn’t even spot the flower in the movie, but I did so.
As a 10-year-old, I recall being woken up at 2 a.m. with my sister in order that we’re able to drive to an Auntie’s house to start to see the Queen of the night time, a.k.a Night Blooming Cereus, bloom. It had been a rare opportunity because it’s a flower that blooms only once a year, during the night.
I didn’t start to see the value as a kid to wait because of this flower to start — it felt a bit like watching water boil. But, now I view it as a lesson in taking opportunities if they come.
As my pal June Kaewsith says, "The Queen of the night time appears in her crown and glory once in an eternity following the sun sets. This flower blooms carefully and patience. It really is planted, grown, fed and looked after just this moment. You are, too. You’ve been pruned for the opportunities before you."
Basically, take those opportunities even if indeed they seem inconvenient.
Growing up Asian American wasn’t always hard nonetheless it wasn’t always easy. I identify so much with Rachel — not white enough to be American rather than Asian enough to learn all of the cultural rules, like never to dress such as a red envelope if you wish to generate a good impression. I didn’t fully match either world, but relate and love both.
Like Rachel, I’ve chosen to check out my passion, and I take with you the elements of my upbringing and heritage that let me shoot for excellence, value family, be bold and strong … and try to live my entire life as regret-free as possible.